A new blog

One of the girls who used to be on my IF board (she's graduated to the success board and is due in 7 weeks or so) just started a new blog with her sister. Rachel (the one from my board) tried for 30 months to get PG - during which she had 2 failed adoptions and then IVF #1 that worked. Meanwhile her sister had 4 children in 5 years. They decided to start a blog to talk about the struggles that they both went through during that 30 months. I thought it sounded like an interesting idea, to see IF from both sides of it.

ME VS. YOU

Here is what she says about it:

Melissa (my sister) and I have talked a lot about the fact that we should write a book together about my infertility journey . It was definitely a long 30 months…and not just for me. We are closer than close can be. And this time in our life challenged that.

Melissa, having 4 children of her own with no problems what so ever, had no clue what it felt like to wonder “will I ever have a baby?” For along time this caused her to not be the most sympathetic supporter….not b.c she didn’t care, but b.c she was truly naive.

I, being blown away as to why it was taking so long to have a baby, tended to be hard to be around at times. I was an emotional wreck so often and was obviously very angry, hurt, upset, sad, confused and so many other things.

How do you combine these two worlds?

Melissa had no idea what she could or couldn’t say to me, b.c I had no idea what she could or couldn’t say.

Melissa did nothing wrong by continuing her family, but she knew at the same time she was causing so much grief and pain for her sister as I so desperately wanted a family of my own!

And I did nothing wrong in hurting when people around me were getting pregnant, but I was in turn hurting those that I loved.

Two “sides” bound and determined to stick together.

We do not have the time to write a book now, but a blog…that we can do! So, please visit us at our new place and if you or anyone you know falls into either of these categories…please send them our way!!