Appetizer tongs = tears??

I completely lost it after opening some fun appetizer tongs. (Actually it wasn't right when I opened them - it was when I got them back out once we got home.) I love to have people over, throw parties, whatever. I just don't feel like I can do that anymore because we seem to be the childless couple out of people we know. I'm sure a lot of this is in my own head, but I feel like I can't even invite our friends over because I know they won't be able to come. It's easier to go to other peoples houses because then they can put their baby to bed and stay up. I understand that, love going to other houses, and it makes sense, but I suddenly became really upset that I can't have dinner parties. And then it seemed like such a waste that we decorated for Christmas and put up our tree because no one got to see it. So basically I was feeling completely sorry for myself. Last night Anne and I were enjoying a few glasses of wine though and I was talking to her about it. I realized that really, I've never given anyone the chance. I just assume no one will want to make the effort to come to our house, and don't give them the chance.